So to update my work situation, called in on Friday because I knew I was too mad to talk to the boss about what was going on. I went shopping instead (Loft had an awesome sale!!)
When I got to work yesterday I had an email that said she needed to see me first thing. Well I wasn't going to walk in there until she called me, which she did shortly after I sat down. I went into her office and sat down and she started in that she was NOT my enemy but she was my supervisor and that I was not to ever tell her that something she tells me is inappropriate!! I stood up and said this is obviously going to get ugly because you can’t tell me what I can't say to you and refused to talk further until we get the EEO mediator up to set in on the meeting. I could tell by the look on her face that she wasn’t expecting that at all. I think she also realized that I forwarded the emails to the EEO lady. She changed her tune when the mediator got there and was all of a sudden just trying to help me. I let her know that I that by leaving that message and being gone the next day she was being a bully and it was in no way the right thing to do (to which the mediator agreed). The position that I am over has turned into a training position and I have a new employee every 6 months so it isn’t fair to expect me to get the same amount and quality of work out as the other lead that is the lead over someone who has been doing the same job for eons. It is hard enough to do my job but I also have to assign a new person work, train them, answer all their questions, review the work and keep up with all the other meetings and crap I have to do.
I seriously doubt if anything changes, but I do feel good about standing up for myself and the boss will be retiring this summer anyway. She told me that everything was forgotten when I left the office but I still have very little respect or trust in her.
I guess we will find out Friday if we will get our 22 furlough days. I am kind of torn. No, I don’t want to lose 20% of my pay but one less day a week in this place sure sounds nice. I know I could get a part time job on the weekends but since we pretty much live on my paycheck anyway I think it will be ok if I just start letting Dennis contribute to the cell phones, cable, insurance, etc.
Since HMF backed out of the Austin trip last week (I am so done with it) and I am not going to run Oklahoma City this year that will save some money. I will do Joplin but I have a hotel paid for with points and gas shouldn’t be too much, it is about an hour away. I really want to do St. Louis and Springfield too but since they are in the fall I have some time to plan and save up.
Since obviously my life revolves around running I am about to go nuts. I haven’t ran in 10 days. I wanted to last night, the weather was perfect, low 40’s and light rain. But, they were calling for a blizzard and I had to make the obligatory grocery trip. Of course the blizzard didn’t happen and we are just stuck with wet roads. I may go to the gym and run tonight but it isn’t the same on the TM. I really don’t want to run with my work friend, I don’t want to be around anything that has to do with work once I am off the clock.
I am going to have to start watching my diet again. I need to go in and see the band doctor but I really don’t need to take off work since I was off most of last week. I know I could use a small fill but I probably just need to start watching what I put in my mouth instead of relying on the band to restrict the amount of food. I have really been eating crap food. It doesn’t help when Dennis brings home 4 boxes of girl scout cookies. We are down to the thin mints, which I don’t care for but you know I am eating them by the handful. I haven’t really logged since after my surgery but I think I really need to start doing that again. I know my calories aren’t that high but the lack of quality in those calories makes a huge difference. Stress and being sick is really making it hard for me.
When I got to work yesterday I had an email that said she needed to see me first thing. Well I wasn't going to walk in there until she called me, which she did shortly after I sat down. I went into her office and sat down and she started in that she was NOT my enemy but she was my supervisor and that I was not to ever tell her that something she tells me is inappropriate!! I stood up and said this is obviously going to get ugly because you can’t tell me what I can't say to you and refused to talk further until we get the EEO mediator up to set in on the meeting. I could tell by the look on her face that she wasn’t expecting that at all. I think she also realized that I forwarded the emails to the EEO lady. She changed her tune when the mediator got there and was all of a sudden just trying to help me. I let her know that I that by leaving that message and being gone the next day she was being a bully and it was in no way the right thing to do (to which the mediator agreed). The position that I am over has turned into a training position and I have a new employee every 6 months so it isn’t fair to expect me to get the same amount and quality of work out as the other lead that is the lead over someone who has been doing the same job for eons. It is hard enough to do my job but I also have to assign a new person work, train them, answer all their questions, review the work and keep up with all the other meetings and crap I have to do.
I seriously doubt if anything changes, but I do feel good about standing up for myself and the boss will be retiring this summer anyway. She told me that everything was forgotten when I left the office but I still have very little respect or trust in her.
I guess we will find out Friday if we will get our 22 furlough days. I am kind of torn. No, I don’t want to lose 20% of my pay but one less day a week in this place sure sounds nice. I know I could get a part time job on the weekends but since we pretty much live on my paycheck anyway I think it will be ok if I just start letting Dennis contribute to the cell phones, cable, insurance, etc.
Since HMF backed out of the Austin trip last week (I am so done with it) and I am not going to run Oklahoma City this year that will save some money. I will do Joplin but I have a hotel paid for with points and gas shouldn’t be too much, it is about an hour away. I really want to do St. Louis and Springfield too but since they are in the fall I have some time to plan and save up.
Since obviously my life revolves around running I am about to go nuts. I haven’t ran in 10 days. I wanted to last night, the weather was perfect, low 40’s and light rain. But, they were calling for a blizzard and I had to make the obligatory grocery trip. Of course the blizzard didn’t happen and we are just stuck with wet roads. I may go to the gym and run tonight but it isn’t the same on the TM. I really don’t want to run with my work friend, I don’t want to be around anything that has to do with work once I am off the clock.
I am going to have to start watching my diet again. I need to go in and see the band doctor but I really don’t need to take off work since I was off most of last week. I know I could use a small fill but I probably just need to start watching what I put in my mouth instead of relying on the band to restrict the amount of food. I have really been eating crap food. It doesn’t help when Dennis brings home 4 boxes of girl scout cookies. We are down to the thin mints, which I don’t care for but you know I am eating them by the handful. I haven’t really logged since after my surgery but I think I really need to start doing that again. I know my calories aren’t that high but the lack of quality in those calories makes a huge difference. Stress and being sick is really making it hard for me.


I am in awe of you Terrie! You stood up to your boss--and you should have--she was being a bully. What a difficult situation to come into everyday. And the furlough sucks!
ReplyDeleteI am totally in awe as well. I am so proud of you for requesting the mediator. I don't know that I would have been brave enough for that!!!
ReplyDeleteGood for you for sticking up for yourself!! That's really tough to do!
ReplyDeleteIt sucks to work at a place where you can't stand your boss...I did it far too long. I am soooo hoping everything gets worked out and no furlough days. I could afford it if I HAD to...but I really don't want to. At first they said it wouldn't have any impact on the military schools/teachers...now they say we are in the mix with everyone else.
ReplyDeleteGood for you Terrie!! She really needed to be put in her place and the way you did it was GREAT!!!
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